Abby,

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jun 25, 2008 at 17:00

Abby, thank you, it's nice to hear from you.

I really think you are too head-strong for a man you've never even met. The reality is, he could tell you anything he wanted and you'd have little or no reason.....or evidence to doubt him short of calling him a fraud and liar. Yet, you're not sure, and that's why so many women come on here. It's a common pattern in the relationships on here and why it works to the man's advantage.

You're telling me he's like family, yet you haven't met him? That really doesn't make much sense, and it's dangerous to trust someone this much without even meeting them.

Abby, the reality is, it's a lot easier for a man to lie on-line or over the phone. Women have done this to me a bunch of times, too, and it took me a while to understand what was really going on, and I realized I was part of the problem because I was way too trusting.

I really wonder, Abby, if he's even saving at all, or just telling you that and when you arrive, he'll expect you to pay for everything and thinks you will because it would be "rude" and inconvienent not to.

Please, Abby, don't make the same mistakes I did. If I were in your shoes, this is something I wouldn't pursue, and aside from a one lucky break that confused_susan told me about, there's a lot of men talked about on here who seem to be up to no good.

My woman had a job, too, and made twice what I did, yet she still had to borrow from me to support her affluent lifestyle and so she could spend hers on cheating.

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