for CherylC

Submitted by egypt (Egypt), Jun 29, 2008 at 03:42

Hi Cheryl C

You will find a lot of bad things on this site about muslim men. Most of the negative comments are from women who meet men online and never face to face, your situation is different. I myself am married to an egyptian muslim man, and i live in egypt. ( i'm british)

If he currently has a visa for the UK but it has expired, whats stopping him from re-applying? if he got it once he can get it again, without rushing into marriage. He would have to travel back to egypt for a couple of weeks (the appliction period is 2 weeks), so you could go on holiday with him for 2 weeks while he re-applied. And if you wanted to ensure he definately got the visa again, you could become his sponser But take everything the consulate will require to speed up the process. (bank statments, etc)

He is obv. not using you for a visa as he already managed to get it himself first time round. But i wouldnt rush straight into marriage. Get to know him more first. Meet his family (its his tradition to have a long engagement) traditionally his family should give you gifts to show their approval, gold, land etc. Without these gifts it means they dont agree, which should make you question why he wants to marry you - he wont marry you with his family's dissaproval.

But he sounds genuine, just dont rush into anything. Good Luck.

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