thanks for your support

Submitted by mare (United States), Jun 30, 2008 at 02:31

To Zella, Luigi, Yasmin, and all others who responded to my situation with Hammadi.

Your words have inspired me to look at my whole life for the last seventeen months and make all necessary changes to get this man out of my life. I have stayed away from online contact, although some calls went through on my cellphone via unknown caller.

I did talk with Hammadi, and he told me that one of his friends found my blog on danielpipes and he said to me that Allah will punish me severly for lying here about him. He told me that Allah punishes all who hurt him.

Well I told him to stop calling me, and he said all the posts on here mean deep, burning, fiery passionate love, that if I felt this way about him it meant love. He went on to blame me for everything, all disagreements, Hammadi even said, you are a crazy woman you need a doctor to help you.

He blamed me even for saying I was the one who wanted to sent him clothing, etc. without him asking me to, he blamed me for other items he asked for like a camera so he can take pictures to send me, he always asked me to send him something even as little as chewing gum. Well, I did, but at his request.

He was talking like there was a crowd of people around him listening to him, at this point I lost it, it's so unbelievable how this man has lied all this time, reality hit me at this time that I was a fool in love, thinking all was true, I saw all the lies from the start. I am thankful for this site, because every time I felt like talking to Hammadi again, I would read from danielpipes and find strength here. Hammadi said to me that if I wrote here on danielpipes about our love, and to tell everyone here I made a mistake about him, that he would love me for eternity, he would forgive me, and he will always think of me as his wife.

He asked me to write this immediately apologizing for writing about him here and his family, so there is one truth that came out, that the woman and three children I saw in the background are his. Nothing about this man was ever true, I feel that even more into my heart.

I am doing very good, I am happy and went out the other night and had the time of my life. I realize the American men are not so bad after all, that the experiences I had with men in the past are nothing compared to what I just went through. Its has been very mentally and emotionally and physically draining on my life to live in a world that doesn't exist, but that trance you go in to over a man who is talking all the words you want to hear, its hard to come out of when you were hurt in the past.

Now with all your help I am good, and getting better every day, I wish everyone else here all success and realize that to be healthy, happy, to live well exists here in our country of America, we just have to look, we just have to have that fire and passion for the men here, for what I went through was a tunnel of darkness I never thought I would come out of it. I am happier now, I am feeling relaxed, and I don't take Hammadi's threats to my heart, although I had a few restless nights thinking of his threats on me, the one strength I have is God. He is my protector and my guide, He is the one I will hug and hold to my chest, He is the one I will think of when I give money to the native american spiritual gatherings, He is the one I will talk to when I need to for He saved me when I asked Him to show me the signs, give me signs to let me know if what I am going to do in Morocco is the right thing, and He showed me this site, He showed me other men out there exist, He brought me closer to my family, so this I am thankful for, just ask God, He will help in times like these, He will be your guide.

Give to your church, help someone who needs it, join the fitness center, be part of a club of some sort, all these you will find that the blessings in return are more satisfying that all the heartache experienced here with men from North Africa. I wish everyone here the best of love, laughter, the freedom to live a beautiful life. I will not let a man destroy my life, drain my savings account, please join me because life is beautiful here in USA.

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