Trust and Defense

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jun 30, 2008 at 14:55

Hi Cheryl

I can understand why you are attracted to this man, and how you feel about him.

But, you really need to have a realistic perspective.

First of all, if you need third-party confirmation ("please tell it's not all bad!" about a relationship, something is definitely wrong.

Second of all, you've known this man for a year as a distance relationship, and you say you trust him? If you really did, you wouldn't be on here.

Third, I'm glad you're questioning this, because I would say you are still moving too fast. What you really need to ask yourself is if this is right thing to do, or are just looking for someone for your son and not yourself?

Cheryl, it's not going to do your son any good if things don't work with this man or he turns out to be a liar.

The thing you MUST understand is that a lot of times, trouble doesn't start until after marriage, or until you get close to getting married. The reason for this is that the men expects you'll go along with him since you've already invested so much.

Cheryl, in this post, you sound desperate, and that's never a good sign. It's almost as if you're on here just looking for reassurance.

Wake up and smell the coffee.

If your family doesn't approve, then something probably is wrong. Cheryl, unlike you, they can see the relationship without the tainted view of emotion. Please listen to them! I was in a relationship like yours once, and I had all my friends and family telling me not to do it, and guess what?

They were right.

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