Hisham please share your story

Submitted by broken heart (Turkey), Jul 1, 2008 at 13:45

Thank you for your insight regarding the taking of money and gifts from women. I think I met a man who wants to be honest, or otherwise he would have told me we could have a future together. nevertheless, he took my gifts, and my money happily, but with a certain amount of shame - not wanting his friends and family to see what he had received.

I am still trying to convince myself that Hamid is one of the bad ones, as my head surely tells me so. But he does something kind and considerate and I fall apart and give him my trust and benefit of the doubt. I want the desire to end so I can move on, but I am really struggling.

I too have read up on Islam and am lucky to have several muslim female friends with whom I have shared my story. I agree with you that Islam is a very accepting religion and the philosophies are solid and good. I follow my spirit with no prescribed religion and view religions as different philosophies all of which have some good in them.

If it is not too painful, I would appreciate you sharing your story and more insight as to how these men are able to reconcile their religion and the hurt they cause women by leading them on, as well as accepting their gifts. On our first re encounter Hamid saw all the gifts and immediately went on to tell me there is no future for us as he will never leave Morocco and would only consider marrying a girl selected by his mother who he would learn to love. Since then he has contacted me asking for money to get a work contract in Italy as the tourism business in Morocco is suffering and he is short of funds. I would not give him the amount he asked for and he did not ask again. Why such erratic behavior ? Ask and if you do not get what you want not accept a lesser amount.

PLEASE your insight is very very helpful

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