sharm guy

Submitted by amy 2 (United Kingdom), Jul 6, 2008 at 06:18

Hi egypt, thanks for the reply, i have been swept off my feet by this guy and at first i thought he was really charming, attentive and sincere, but as time went on he did have excuses for this and that mostly busy at work wich i can appreciate.

but when i called lately his phone was ringing and then switched off, this was the pattern for 3 hours and he said his battery was flat. i had questioned him about this before as its not the first time ,he told me he had bought another battery so one would always be charged and this would not happen again.

now he tells me one of the batteries no good! i have not been able to get hold of him all night from 6 pm to 11.30 a few times and it is always battery. he does come on the net regularly but lately he has not been answering my messages for up to 2 days on a few occasions saying he has no credit but this is only recently and its not like him.

i think the last straw was when he told me he has a new job as waiter in hotel and will work from 8.30-5pm one hour break then 6pm-2am every day and no days off, and can only come on net once a week , ( ha when?) if this is true then i do sincerely feel for him but what!?

i think i have known for a while now that its a sham but they are good at playing innocent and and he is soo sweet and charming saying i am the only one in his life! all his friends tell me how much he misses me and then you end up doubting yourself. i have not answered his calls now for a while but he does ring often but mainly late at night. it is hard because i am emotionally involved with him.

i hope i can keep it up and not weaken. this site keeps me strong and has helped with my decision. i will change my number if he carries on.

sorry to ramble on but it gets it out of my system to talk here as my family are not interested as thier views are the same as the advice i have been given on this site, i can handle it better when i am not talking to him, he is very persuasive and does keep on about "my wife" and living in england. yes red flag!

i miss him but dont need him, if anyone else is in a similar situation then follow your instincts, mine have been there for a while but for some reason you set them aside but that feeling will always be simmering away and there is a reason for this, to protect us,a warning. i would love the dream but i know that is all it is ,a dream. you are also right egypt that they like to provide for their women,but how can they if they dont earn much, or how can they ever get married if they are stuck earning small salaries? i suppose they will go to great lengths to improve their status in life. would you let me know if they do work all these hours, i myself doubt it very much. thanks for listening.

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