Thanks SLS

Submitted by yasemin (Canada), Jul 7, 2008 at 16:59

Thanks for your support, SLS. I know for a fact that many women who have become victims of these marriage / relationship scams are ashamed to come forward, afraid to be branded stupid or naive. I feel both of these things but it is too important to me to forewarn other women, and in order for my words to have their greatest impact, I need to tell the whole messy story no matter how I am judged because of it. No woman should have to be reduced to a hollow shell if someone can prevent this tragedy.

Women who get scammed by these men aren't necessarily lacking in intelligence by any stretch. What makes a woman vulnerable is being naive about the culture and the methods these men use. Other factors: loneliness and a sense of desperation, particularly in mid-life as well as vanity make a woman vulnerable. These men play to a woman's need for being noticed and valued. And perhaps professional career women in particular are at risk because they are tired of the rat race and having to be in charge and want to be taken care of. All of these factors are why I get caught in my husband's deadly web.

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