I will try to be strong....

Submitted by Farrah (United States), Jul 9, 2008 at 14:45

Ladies I was such a fool!! Some puzzle pieces are slowly fitting into place...

My situation today: Husband WILL NOT SPEAK ONE WORD TO ME. Of course does not touch me at all....Remember my story: I married my man & "allowed" him to live with his female elderly roomate!! Looking back....he only moved in right before our INS interview. As I was about to tell him forget me and stay there where he was in another state. So he moved quickly here( we had been married about 6-7 months before he moved in permanently). He would call every night around 11pm after his work from the hallway of his apartment so as not to "wake" his roomie?? Oi , I am stupid!! Then after getting his "temporary card" suddenly had to go to his home country...leaving me for one month.

Recently on the phone when he is talking to his sister, I hear him say a girls name constantly. I asked WHO is this person?? As they speak in Arabic/French...then I remembered....in the photos that he brought back a woman he said CONSTANTLY came to visit the FAMILY because he was there....then photos of his "cousin" popped up uncovered and his arms around her!!! Remember the woman CAN uncover in front of potential IN-LAWS!!!! Oi! how could I be soooooooooo stupid!! I NEVER mention this conclusion but it sorta explains maybe why he takes EVERY cent from my joint accout. He must be sending money home to them!! Though his parents "seem" rich! God, please help me....

And remember I was thinking about "converting" to Islam and take classes at the local Masjid....but that subject doesn't even come up anymore....he has quietly let that "drop" Remember my intention was to then marry by the Imam...harder for them to leave when you are Muslimah

But if I leave, where do I go?? I don't want my marriage to end. my man is sooo handsome!! but he says not one word to me. Doesn't even eat my food. Doesn't sleep w/me. I can't live like this. We have only been together one year. If I leave will he still be able to get his greencard?? Or what??

I am inheiriting some money soon...should I abandon him before he abandons me?? I also read on al-sura.com It is okay for Muslim man to marry w/us it is only deemed a "temporary"/travelers marriage in Islam.

Ladies, please listen...they will walk away so fast from us. I was/am a fool. but I am not the only one. They have others in their country, it's that simple. I feel like all of my dreams are dashed. But what's WORSE is the sad look that comes over people's face when you marry quickly AND they find out your spouse is from North Africa/Mddle East countries...

Another thing ,my man has never taken me out....no honeymoon, no dinners etc...not even a coffee. Can you believe?? I beg of you....if you are online w/a guy far away....just cut relation TODAY. Please. there are plenty of men here....if you like that type they are here BUT they will not be interested because if they are in America they are looking for girl from THEIR country ONLY. As now, they make their families believe they have great job here(working in restaurant taxi driver,is NEVER mentioned), can speak so good in English . If you have sent these guys one item....one cent then PLEASE cut ties today. Just do it!!

I used to believe in astrology but because I am religious person I stopped...one thing it says in the bible I don't remember word for word but something like :If ANYONE could tell our futures by looking to the stars...we could not handle it. So NO ONE has that ability , so don't waste your time/money...but I often pray if I could just get a "glimpse" of what lies ahead , I could prepare?? YOU cannot see what's ahead of you...I can only tell you from experience...they think diffrently...only $$$ matters, cell phones ,a pair of designer blue jeans and tennis shoes. Isn't that crazy??

Think of yourself as hanging onto a rope over the edge of a cliff. You look up and HE'S the one that's slicing away so you'll fall. Someone said they take you right up to cloud 9 and then drop you , and it hurts!! That's sooo true!! Just end it if you are not "engaged" yet. If you are planning to marry go ahead....EVERY woman in the world is entitled to be a man's wife.It's WONDERFUL!! Don't deny yourself that pleasure...but if you haven't traveled down THIS dusty exotic path...don't .

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