To mare

Submitted by yasemin (Canada), Jul 10, 2008 at 13:02

Mare, I'm so glad we could help. Thank goodness you got out before you were in too deep. Then it wouldn't just be "allah" who punishes you, it would have been abuse and death threats from this man himself. You pointed out something that I had forgotten to mention and it's so important. Men there are on a pedestal and a woman would never dare to suggest that the man has done something wrong. It tarnishes the man's honor as well as the honor of the man's whole family. It is dangerous for women to seek help from the police in these countries - many honor killings are because women went public with their husband's dirty secrets.

These threats against you should serve to warn all posters here about giving their email or phone number here or on any other website.

Second thing i had forgotten to say before that relates to your post - these men will do and say anything to seem blameless - they will deny that you did anything for them and in fact accuse you of things that could so easily land you in prison. My husband told court I had accepted money for marrying him to get him a visa. What a slap in the face after living in dirty rooms and going without food here while doing his immigration. He continually accused me of saying things against his country, and since this is a major crime there, I was constantly in danger had he pursued this in court there.

I wish you a life full of happiness and hope you have cut off all contact with him.

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