Cheryl C

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jul 10, 2008 at 19:28

Luckily I have been talking to a lady I met through work who has just been married abroad and she is meeting me with some papers to go over what is needed as she had quite a few problems and had to constantly return to the country she was marrying in - although i think that as she has been married twice before and her boyfriend was sooooo much younger than her, i guess people assumed it must have been for business and not love, i don't know her well enough to form an opinion so will just assume she did it for the right reasons.

You know, I'm actually chuckling as I read this because if you think that a man who is a lot younger than you is serious about a relationship, it's a delusion and against the odds like you would not believe, Cheryl. If you still keep in touch with this woman, please refer her to this site.

I can also see now why you are gravitating towards what Kelly says. Kelly has only been married for 3 years, and as Viking Woman has noted previously, she's made better decision than many women who rush into something.

Cheryl, the assumption about this woman you talk about that "she did if for the right reasons" seems to me like the easy thing to think, perhaps even to justify your own actions.

It's the kind of attitude that gets you into the trouble you've been reading about on here.

I would really appreciate any other information you can give and if you can recommend any good services like the translators/solicitors in egypt it would be gratefully appreciated.

Communication is the key to a marriage, and if you need a translator, well, the chances of this working out are slim to none.

Thanks again for your help and how refreshing to read a successfull relationship when some people appear sinister at the thought of a relationship with a human but i feel they have a sinister relationship with chat forums and website in general and should maybe give real life a chance and they may even experience some happiness, as if nothing else,

While on-line dating is behind many of the problems on here, so are international relationships in real life. Remember, you are still communicating mostly by distance.

So, then, if you're so sure, why are you on here again? To find out about marriage customs of Egypt? It's interesting that Dr. Pipes hasn't mentioned that? Or, better yet, have even read what the scope of this blog is about?

Cheryl, I think there is more going on here than you are saying.

if i am being taken for a complete idiot as some people have expressed then at least i've had the best year in a relationship that i've had in the whole of my dating life (nearly 20yrs) and the good memories i do have with my egyptian partner are priceless!!!!!

I doubt you'll be thinking that if this goes sour. The thing about those of us who disagree with you, Cheryl, and Kelly is that we have all experienced it ourselves. Getting burned in a distance relationship really is something that you have to experience to understand and blind love or love in general will not provide you with the same insight. Those memories won't be so nice when you're working two jobs to pay for expenses. Trust me, I've been there.

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