Women under control, response to Zella

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jul 10, 2008 at 20:37

Thanks for your insights. I appreciate your comments on drama but I think sometimes women don't fully grasp their potentials. For example, the questions, "Is it good to me/Is it good for me"? can help one to develop insight. Developing insight is a skill that must be incorporated in our lives. When I worked in mental health programs, I tried my best to help women become empowered. Was I successful? In a couple of cases but trust me, most of the time I was the one who agonized while the women appeared to have no anxieties.

I think you are right, and I think a lot of it has to do with competition with men. I'm not necessarily referring to workplace, but I mean in a relationship. A lot of the women on here who seem to be in trouble just go with the flow and do what the man wants just because they want someone "decent." That's why you have the women who marry Muslim men converting to Islam as Dr. Pipes wrote about. Not always because they believe Islam is the true faith, but just because they want a man who's willing to have kids, and Muslim men for reasons from the joy of it to conquering the world.

I think that the biggest obstacle women have to deal with is their emotional connection. Now, I realize that not every person is the same, but as you may already know, women have 25% more connection between the left and right lobes of the brain. So, they are more in touch with their emotions.

Men don't have this, and I think it's a big reason why traditionally, they take the lead in a relationship, and even when women say they are independent (my woman did despite her myspace addiction) deep down they want a guy to lead and even take control.

I do believe that women have more of a challenge to gain insight because of it. Yes, I realize that women read about dating quirks in "Cosmo" and the like, but once a guy figures out how to manipulate a woman (like many of the Muslim males on here), he really has control, ESPECIALLY if he doesn't care about the girl and is after sex or money. Then his investment is "gain-only", meaning he has nothing to lose, but the girl does.

I see the same behaviors in many of the women in my family. I sometimes believe if there were 5,000 men in a room and 4,999 were functional, the women in my family would lasso the 1 who was dysfunctional. I have no problems with people making mistakes as long as they learn. Unfortunately my experiences have shown that many of the women keep putting their hands on the flame even after they were previously burned.

The unsaid reasons why women on here like Muslim men: Appearance and sex with a man from another culture. It's really that simple, and the continuous hammering of tolerance and diversity by the left from Vermont to India has more influence over it that people are willing to admit.

In a recent conversation with Kelly, I referenced her UK background. There are some institutions today in the UK and elsewhere than run with the idea that you have to appreciate other cultures and embrace them no matter what, or you are a racist.

So it's really not surprising that some women will date interracially/intercultural to prove how tolerant they are. Just look at the rhetoric of some of the women who come on here and defend their relationship.

I should probably mention to that this phenomena was proven in social science studies.

I have some very stranges habits I guess. 1. I do not like psychological pain and/or drama; 2. I do not need a man to feel whole; 3. I am thirsty for knowledge so I keep myself entertained by reading and researching; 4. "handsome pretty men" without life skills just don't interest me; 5. I want nothing to do with a man who is raised in a culture/religion that does not value women.

That's the crux of some of the stories on here. Remember those South African women who were trying to justify a polygamous marriage?

These self-pity parties that are orchestrated by Westerners today is sickening. It's another dopey concept perpetrated by society because some people get a sick pleasure from self-degradation. I think you know what I am talking if you've worked in mental health before.

I'll even admit, Zella, I've been there before. Why? Because I thought it would get me the women I wanted, that they would want me because they would feel sorry for me.

It's really the same concept on here in some of the man-defense posts.

Ok, so I am too rigid. So be it. A book on Ancient Egypt makes me happy. My wants serve me well.

It's really because you want normal, practical things and have normal, practical expectations. That's how I see it.

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