To Farrah, I wasn't referring to you

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jul 11, 2008 at 17:39

Farrah, While I do appreciate the compliments, I think you're really misreading me here.

I'm a little confused. There is NOTHING like this for Non-Muslim women married to Muslim men. This forum is mature, inviting, and informative to say the least.. I stumbled on it totally by accident and am SOOOOO GLAD I found it!! I think I typed in my search...Is my Algerian man scamming me or something like that? And here I am, At least 5 months here and I luv it! So I am surprised at your comments tonight as you offer so much awesome advise?

You're confused? I have no idea what you are talking about. I agree that this is the best forum! Haven't I made that clear in my references to Y! answers, youtube, topix, facebook and myspace?

You don't understand a womans perspective on this....you are chatting w/ some guy from far away and suddenly he wants to marry with you...You don't know what to do, where to turn and many of us land here....American/UK men do not want to marry, it's pure and simple! And if you are not blonde and thin as a rail...match.com /e.harmony etc...No one's gonna choose you or "wink" at you!!! Am I right sisters??

A woman's perspective? Any woman I know would balk at a marriage proposal over the internet. Meeting someone and marrying them soley from on-line communication or a few scattered visits to his country doesn't compensate for real-life dating.

I'll be the first to tell you that I've made the same mistakes that a lot of other women have.

Proving to others we are "marriageable". That's what we are really doing....proving to others that YES! someone wants me too!! So don't put us down Luigi....we need this blog spot. It surely fulfills YOUR need to give us the male perspective on things. Oh! I noticed you NEVER ask US our opinions on YOUR situation....afraid of what we'll say on how women play men too?

Because, Farrah, I don't have a situation at the moment, and like I said, I've already been through all of this before. I can't even tell you how many times I read the stories on here and how it brings back some bad memories.

You are misreading my post, Farrah, I am not talking about women like you who are discerning their relationship, I'm, talking about women like Kelly, Isis, apple and to some extent Stella who keep on repeating how great their man is but they have to come a blog that clearly illustrates different view than their own to convince me that what they have is real, they are NOT asking for advice but are giving it themselves.

It's not a black and white world, but what it boils down to is that they are concerned about the rep of the religion/culture/nationality of their man and that's why they are on here. I would bet you that some of them even like the drama, their heart starts racing whenever they see the "your comments have received a response at danielpipes.org" in their inbox and they hope it's Luigi so they can debate him and show him how right and tolerant they are and what an uneducated American I am.

Listen, Farrah, there's a clear difference in their tone as opposed to yours. They are mad at me for questioning their wonderful relationships. It would take some reading, but the only reason they reply to me is because I've said "look at YOUR OWN relationship." In their view I wasn't supposed to do that because they never ASKED for advice.

Several people including me have written concerns to you, yet you see both views. I can SEE that you are thinking about it by how you write. Some of the others don't. In fact, some of them think that being with a Muslim man is so great that EVEN I, Luigi, need one.

The question that I wanted answered is: If it's so great, what do you need this site for? If you're so sure, why come on here?

No one wants to answer that, Farrah.

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