To Cheryl

Submitted by Zella (United States), Jul 11, 2008 at 22:09

I am so happy that you are feeling better and moving ahead with your life. This afternoon while at the hairdresser I read an article written by a Female Psychiatrist and it was very interesting. The article focused on intelligent, beautiful, and nice women becoming involved with "bad boys." She claims that nice, intelligent and attractive women always think the "bad boys" will become "good boys" and change. These women also tend to justify the "bad boy" behavior (eg. "he's just going through a phase." "He really didn't mean to do what he did." "It wasn't his fault" (in the case of the men from Moroc, I've seen posts where women actually try to blame the lying, cheating, stealing, etc on the country's poverty). Being poor gives no one the right to destroy another human being. I was raised in a very poor environment but we were raised with a sound value system.

Sometimes I think I must have some serious personality deficits because I do not trust people very easily. I was taught to always watch the eyes because eyes are the windows to the soul. When I observe a person with what I shall term, "shifty eyes" I then begin to listen and watch more closely because if they can't look you in the eye, they have something to hide.

I do know that western women are taught from infancy to be kind, nice and gentle. We are taught that it is better to give than to receive and unfortunately people who wish to "get over" play on the emotions of nice, kind, gentle people. I realize that women want a husband but I have extreme difficulty understanding why western women will gravitate to men who are extremely poor, unsophisticated, and who do not respect women. I just prefer a nice, quiet, peaceful life with as little drama as possible. Books and exercise are two of my closest friends.

Cheryl, continue to take good care of yourself. Count your blessings.

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