To Anon

Submitted by Jr (United States), Jul 12, 2008 at 16:25

Thank you for your comments, and I completely understand what you were trying to say. I just keep trying to hold on to what's left of my relationship because I don't believe you should give up when things are difficult. Having said that, dh and I have mutually agreed to call it quits.

He still tells me that if I change my mind and would like to convert to Islam, then he would let me come back and we could be a happy family. He even said that if I converted, we could get the house we've been trying to get and start trying to have children right away.

All I have to do is renounce my faith. It hurts more than anything that I have to make these choices, because I really do want to settle down and have a happy family, but I cannot, for any reason, renounce my faith in Christ. I would die first. I know that God has his plan for everything and that if I keep my eyes on Him through this, he will give me the husband and children that I long for, if it's his will. It's hard sometimes to give these things up right now to stick to my convictions, but it will be worth it in the long run.

I guess this is the consequence of my decisions earlier in life. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger. But it's hard to lose this relationship. It's a sort of grieving, you know? It may not kill me, but it sure does hurt. It was not a bad relationship while it lasted, but it's very difficult to make these kind last without one of the people being miserable. I will always warn against these types of relationships, even if the man seems good. I really believe that mine is good, just not for me.

I always try to warn people from judging the whole population of Muslim men because I believe that there are some that are good. But even if it goes well for a while, there is nearly always heartbreak at the end. ALWAYS.

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