For Hisham

Submitted by Zella (United States), Jul 15, 2008 at 16:50

I have been thinking about your situation and it occurred to me as I was exercising today that you have allowed what I shall refer to as a "long ago memory" control your whole existence. While your postings might indicate to many that you still have deep feelings for this woman, I beg to differ.

I believe that you are very angry with yourself for allowing a selfish, insensitive woman to control your life. Anger is like burning one's house down to kill a rat. The house burns to the ground with all our belongings and most of the time, the rat runs for cover when he sees the first flames. A rat doesn't hang around until the firemen arrive. He makes his exit before the drama begins.

It's not uncommon to be angry when one has stolen both your heart and your soul. Nevertheless, you can't undo that which has been done. On the other hand, one can learn from the errors of his ways and try hard not to repeat the same mistake again.

The woman from California is a sociopath just like the men who sit in the chat rooms and profess to be in love as they ask for money, designer jeans and tennis shoes. The word "love" has definitely caused misery for many. If mortals could just learn to like and respect each other and let "love" take its course, life might be less complicated. Thank God that you weren't the one who married this selfish woman because your life would have been worse than miserable. People who steal the heart and soul of their prey feel absolutely nothing. They can move from one relationship to another without feeling any guilt and remorse. Such is the lifestyle of the sociopath.

As for you, Hisham, remember that our journey on this earth is short and it's important that we drink each day down to the bottom of the cup. Feeling sorry for what should have been but wasn't can prevent us from being thankful for what we have. Sometimes I think the beggars on the street are far more content than those of us who are able to take care of ourselves. It seems as if we're always chasing the rainbow but instead of enjoying the beautiful colors, we just keep running with only one goal..... to find that elusive pot of gold. When we don't find it, we either smile and say, "it wasn't meant to be" or we whine and moan for that which we cannot have. Gods' children sure are complicated, aren't we?

Again, I'm not trying to be the Blog Psychiatrist-in-Residence but I do believe you need to look at yourself in the mirror and say, "In spite of all the sad times in my life, I have been blessed with so much." Grasp the good times and move forward. Shed the shackles from the past and enjoy your life. You know sometimes when I am experiencing difficulties, I stop and ask myself, "If this was your last day on this earth, would you want to spend it this way." Then I feel a smile spreading across my face and I reply, "No Way." Then I try to move full speed ahead. If I digress, I start the process all over again.

In spite of the downs that we encounter, isn't life just the greatest? Yes, it is.

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