For Hisham

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jul 21, 2008 at 23:40

Hisham:

Alright, I won't mister you if that is what you want. I think your contributions on here are helpful and respectful, and I can see that you have much more life experience than I do, and I take interest in what you have to say.

I realize that you are new on here, and in the eight months I have been on here (about), I have noticed that several women who post on here are older women who are divorced, and some have children.

Women who are divorced are often targeted for scams (and in some cases sex) because they are seen as vulnerable and desperate. As a younger person myself, I do get attention from divorced women as well, and I know if I wanted sex, I could get it this weekend probably. Sad thing is, I am by no means a lady's man or handsome or any of that.

I suppose you could say that freedom has something to do with it, but honestly, as a Western man myself, a lot of Western men just don't have their act together.

The common misrepresentation is that all we want is sex. It's not necessarily true, not in every case at least. It seems that a lot of men over here think that they can party their whole lives until they drop dead at 90. I have some friends who operate along these lines.

The other side of the equation is that a lot of Western men don't know how to treat women. I don't mean they go around and sexually harass girls, but what I mean is they don't know basic dating skills and I think some men are afraid of rejection. They have to learn that it's all part of the deal. I just got rejected today, as a matter of fact.

When they talk to men from a different country who have charm, it really is a new concept for many of them. But the big reason why so many do it, I think, is because they see what they want to see on-line. I mean, what draws a lot of women here I think is that they aren't sure, and the reason is over 70% of communication between people comes from other sources besides words. The woman cannot tell if the man is deceiving her or not over the internet, because she can't see his eyes, his body language, his timing, or him outside of his comfort zone. The man could have six pages up on how to talk to a Western woman, and she'd never know.

And a webcam will NOT solve these problems.

So, it's not like dating in real life, if it were, she'd be able to sense his intentions much better. In fact, the ball would be in his court much more and he would be under more pressure to take the lead.

This is why I think so many women come on here. They are trying to find evidence that something could be wrong, they are wondering if they are just plain paranoid. It really can be stressful.

The other thing is: women tend to love a mystery man. If they are talking to a scammer who has say 15-40 prospects, then she's not going to get much attention. This can give the impression that the man has a significant life of his own, especially since he is hiding as much about himself as he can. The more he does, the higher the attraction.

See, Western women really don't like desperate men. It's really unattractive, because they want someone who can challenge and protect them. Of course, there are exceptions, but the exceptions are usually women who just want sex or money or something like that.

Unfortunately, because environmental and social factors are altering the natural male/female ratio here in the West, we have more women than men, and seemingly less good men.

So, I expect this on-line trend to get even worse for women. It's bad enough for men the way it is with Latino, Russian and Nigerian women. I mean, what happens on this board is just a small part of an entire dimension of on-line scamming. And interestingly enough, Hisham, it's easier to scam the men than the women.

There are a lot of dating profiles out there, but I would guess that most people won't find their life partner on-line.

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