To: Zella

Submitted by cheryltaft@yahoo.com (United States), Jul 31, 2008 at 03:18

Thanks for the info on the article you read but in my case...I had no idea my ex was A BAD BOY...I thought he was wonderful. He was so kind, thoughtful, caring, and professed his love to me daily...I do believe now he was scamming for quite some time though and I was too blinded by love for this man and couldn't see it.

That is the problem...When you are emotionally involved with a man that is a sociopath, as I believe Said Quenjel is...it is extremely difficult to find fault with them. Said was so convincing in his stories, his drama...that there was no possible way this man would or could lie to me...so I thought...When I would bring up things in conversation about things I found to be morally wrong or criminal, Said would whole heartedly agree with me and say stuff like, "I don't like that...that is not right"...etc.

He was a master of the art of telling you exactly what you wanted to hear and make you believe it...hence...a Sociopath...a person capable of doing such things with no remorse or conscience. Which by the way...Said insists that he is a good person, has a conscience and is not a monster, when I confronted him with such questions and wonder....

As far as me counting my blessings...I surely am, even though I am grieving for this phantom man that Said painted as himself. I had so many hopes, dreams, promises with this man and as I have mentioned earlier, I had the rug pulled right out from under me...I never saw this coming...NEVER....The range of emotions that have swept over me these last few months are truly mind boggling...I had no idea I could ever feel so many different ways.

But I am getting back to my normal, happy self, more and more each day. I have moments of extreme sadness but they are being replaced with gladness, relief and hope. Time really does heal all wounds, or atleast dulls the pain more and more with every passing day. I think the hardest thing for me to accept from the tragedy that has happened to me is the sheer fact that another human being (Said Quenjel) was capable of being so mean, rotten and deceiving to another human being (me) that was only showing love and care and generosity to help another human have a better life. It is not a good feeling and one that I wish I never had the opportunity to experience.

So please don't think I was trying to change a bad boy into being a good one, cuz I thought I had a good one and all the others were bad....Silly Me....Boy was I ever misled...So women out there reading this...please learn from my mistakes...these men will tell you anything you want to hear...they are experts at that, charming, lovable, caring, kind, sweet....the list goes on...just beware...things are not always as they seem...i know...

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