What could they possibly be?

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jul 31, 2008 at 19:13

Well, to be honest, who knows? I mean, you shouldn't commit so much to someone if you aren't sure about their motives, right, justme, much less move for them?

Here's a couple of things I would like you to consider, not for me, but yourself and your own happiness:

1) The main reason I think that women come on here is because they aren't sure. Usuallly, it's because they are talking on-line where only 30-40% of human communication is possible.

2) I think maybe the reason you aren't sure is because you don't know him well enough. In the sales business, there is a general rule: Spontaneous people buy things. Next time you are at the supermarket, look at the candy. Is it cheaper in the aisles, or at the check-out? Why is that? Because you have LESS time to make a decision at check-out.

Scammers and liars use this, because it gives you less time to process what is going on. It doesn't mean you're stupid, it's just a simple trick that works.

One of my bosses who was in sales told me: A sale is just two sides to a story. Either you're going to believe the customer and you won't sell, or they'll believe you and buy.

3) He said he'll live by the American culture. Listen, if there is one thing I want you to remember about religious men (and by today's standards, I am one) is DO NOT for one second think that if they get intimate with or make a move on you that they are suddenly secular. When I was dating my myspace woman, she would talk about converting or raising the kids Catholic, she herself was an agnostic. Over time, I found out that she changed her opinion as a matter of convience---like when she needed something... Funny how that works.

4) Do you want to be with a lazy guy? My fear is about sticking this out is that he'll expect you to cook and clean and he'll say TOLD YOU I WAS LAZY!!!! I mean, you may not be dealing with a guy who'd put up a Bin-laden poster in his room, but maybe you'd be getting just another, regular guy who wants someone to take care of him. I mean, you want an equal partner, not a son.

5) I'm really glad you came on here when you did, and didn't wait for the honeymoon to question this.
I didn't mean to insinuate that you were seeking out younger men, but I think that it's important to be practical. I can understand your attraction to this man, but if it's crazy to you, why even bother?

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