What God wants for you, turmoil city

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Aug 2, 2008 at 23:32

Hi there

First of all, I do not think you are bragging, and your situation may be more common than you think.

I want to address what God wants for you. It really makes a situation difficult when you say that you're in this situation because of God. I don't pretend I know everything about God, but I do know it's not healthy for someone to be in an emotionally abusive relationship. God is generous and wants us to make sacrifices, but they should be spiritually fulfilling. Being with this man clearly isn't, so I'm not convinced --AT ALL-- that it's God's will for you to be with this man because he got out of Morocco. I can see how that could be a sign, but to be honest, turmoil, it's more of a sign from a teen drama show than from our Heavenly Father.

Look, I know you're kind of telling us that words are just words. But believe me, after I caught my myspace woman cheating, I went after those people. I didn't hurt them physically--why, I didn't even meet them, but I did say things to them in reference to their personal lives that will make them think twice about doing something like that again, and to me, that was more effective than physically hurting them---and much more legal too.

Plus, I'm not much of a fighter anyway.

I can't say I'm proud of what I did, nonetheless.

Listen, it seems like your man just doesn't care. It could be because he's just not interested in you anymore. The myspace woman I dated, when I had to have surgery, she just said she'd hold me in her heart. She didn't stop fighting with me or trying to convince me that what I had (Car, ipod, computer) were hers. She just played it more carefully so she could get what she wanted. She even wanted me to come and see her in the middle of blizzard.

Yeah, so she sure cared, allright.

It could also be like you said, it's some deeper psyhcological problem, but so did my myspace woman.

I just think that our stories are similar in a lot of respects, and I would probably find someone else.

I can understand your attraction to this man, and I'm sure it feels really good to be with someone who is younger and gives all the attention and love. No relationship is ever bad 100% of the time, but he just doesn't care. Naturally or by choice, it's clearly hurting you that you shared it all with us on here on Dr. Pipes's personal page.

Also, please don't think that words cannot be harmful. They can be, especially if they come from the person you love. I will go out on a limb and say I think it's more hurtful that maybe you are saying, which is understandable, who wants to scream out "I'm hurting!" when so many people play the victim, as I'm sure you've aware of in the education environment. If someone you love says something to hurt you, well, I'd say it's okay to feel hurt.

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