Dear Michelle

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Aug 4, 2008 at 13:42

Thanks for sharing.

First of all, I am not "you women", but I think Abby has some valid points. It's possible your man used you just to get his family over here. It certainly wouldn't be a first.

Secondly, since converting to Islam is a sin, why did you do it and why are you trying to rationalize it on here?

Third, while you are correct that on-line relationships result in most of the problems, so do cultural differences.

Quite frankly, I don't care how tolerant or "in love" you think you are, cultural differences will always be an obstacle and an ex-force. This is quite clear in your case, as you say you converted to Islam with a "so what if I did" attitude. It really makes me wonder if your relationship is based on appearance and/or ethnicity. It is at least obvious that you don't believe Islam is the true faith. Perhaps you ought to discuss this with your man and see if he would like to be Christian (personally, I'm a fan of the Catholic Church ;)

Fourth, please recognize that only 20% of Muslims worldwide are Arabs, and the dominant North African group is Berber

Fifth, I think what people say does have an impact on how you feel about your relationship. It's very obvious the second you hit SEND COMMENT on this site. It's quite clear you're very upset about what has been said on here about Moroccan men. If this were a blog about Russian women, let's face it, you wouldn't even give it the time of day.

Sixth, the story about sleeping on the steps, I don't buy it at first glance. I've heard too many sob stories, and that sounds like something a clever waitress or stripper would say.

Seventh, so what if your man gives you money? It's admirable that you work hard, but just because he gives you money doesn't validate your relationship. I gave my myspace woman money, and she used it to screw around with other men. As a guy, I have to say it's very possible in your case that he may EXPECT something from you in return. If he doesn't now, maybe he will at a later date. At the very least, I'll bet he hangs this over your head in an argument, no?

Eighth, we really don't hear from people who have truly stable relationships because they are too busy enjoying each other to care what is said on the internet. And really, Michelle, I've seen this kind of blogging several times before I even came here.

Ninth if he has double standards worth mentioning, why are you with him? Because he gives you money, you say? Earlier in your post, it sounds like you have to work pretty hard.

Tenth, I don't know if you two are living together or not, but it seems like every case I see on those "Judge Judy" like shows (the few episodes I have seen) involve unmarried couples who live together. A Catholic priest actually told me this in a sermon, and I got the curiousity to go and see.

Your post seems to be just a defense of Moroccan, Muslim men in a roundabout way. Meeting a man in real life doesn't mean it's going to be real. Lately on this forum, there have been numerous counterexamples to that.

I encourage you to respond to this, but I wouldn't be surprised at all if this were just a hit and run post. We get them from time to time. But please be more sensitive. Lots of people on here have been hurt and are still hurting, so if your expectation is for everyone to glorify Moroccan men, you've come to the wrong place.

I'm just not so sure that your relationship is going to work out and become happily ever after. You've really avoided asking for advice yourself, but this whole "tough girl" attitude concerns me and tells me there may be more here than meets the eye.

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