Win-win situation for Hamid

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Aug 5, 2008 at 22:50

Dear broken heart,

First of all, I know this was meant for Hisham, but I want you to know you are NOT stupid, okay? But you do sound kinda desperate and VERY vulnerable at the moment, which is understandable given your past experience with Hamid.

Stupid, no. I just don't think you realize the gravity of a situation like this.

To answer your question is it wrong to help? Well, the thing is, I agree with Hisham. It sounds like this purchase is something illegal, and if he gets caught, chances are he's going to rat on you and you'll be in trouble.

Listen, broken heart, I'm going to give it to you straight: I don't think you are just doing this for charity. Clearly, you want this man back in the bedroom and have been looking for excuses to do so. I can relate to your situation very much, but now you are talking about the possibility of abetting an illegal immigrant to Italy, and with terrorism concerns these days, it's going to get you into a lot of trouble.

The reality is, broken heart, one intimate encounter doesn't mean you know this man! He could be anyone! What do you think will happen if he gets caught and happens to be involved in drug trade---or thought to have ties to terrorism? He sure won't keep his mouth shut about you.

I can't speak for Hisham, but this is out of control. You are putting your own personal freedom on the line out of emotions and are making a big gamble if you go through with this.

I don't think anyone is going to say you are wrong about Morocco or the fact that it may be fair to him to struggle there if that's the case.

This man may seem sweet and determined to conquer his plight in your eyes, but from a guys perspective, this is a dream scenario. I mean, he's getting free sex AND gifts??? Wow is all I can say. Trust me, this is hardly a bargain for you, and I don't care how religious he is, all men like sex.

I don't think he respects you, broken heart, despite his "surface" sincerity. For all I know, these sexual encounters will just be an added bonus for him.

This all must sound very cruel, but that's how men operate. If you let people step on you out of your false sense of guilt or vulnerability, they will, and chances are, they won't appreciate it at heart even with a sincere puppy-dog face and thank-you. Believe, I've seen all that before from my myspace woman. Sometimes, on the same day she would pull that, she'd be off on the net looking for men to have cybersex with.

I understand to some extent the predicament you are in, and it's usually hard to let go of someone you have been intimate with, but all I can say is only you yourself can ascend past your sexual desires for Hamid. I realize it won't be easy at all, because I'm sure it's on your mind a lot and probably tough to resist. It's okay to feel this way, and I've been there before, and it's how intimacy and passion work.

I'll even admit, I know that if got back together with my myspace woman, we'd probably make out to some extent at least, and yeah, despite all the stealing, lying, cheating and hitting that she did, I'd enjoy it. It's basic biology.

But I just know better and I learned the hard way, broken heart. Please, for your own sake, cut your losses and move away from this man.

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