Confused

Submitted by Ruth (United Kingdom), Aug 7, 2008 at 17:50

Thank you for your advice Amina. I am still hoping that he is a good man and genuinely thought it ok to ask me for money to fix the apartment because I am English and in England it would have been ok for a husband to ask this of his wife.

There are other warning signs though but it is hard to acknowlege them. He bought our wedding rings and both are a combination of silver and gold and he is a Muslim, and I read today that Muslim men should not wear gold. He no longer wants us to live in his apartment in his home town because I asked him if he would have my name put on it as well as his. He said that because his family helped him buy the apartment that would upset them and that me asking him this meant i did not trust him which is bad. I have hidden from him how much this has hurt me and am still trying to rationalise it.

In every other way he seems a good and kind caring man. He is respectful and affectionate with his family as he is with me. He is popular and well liked. in both his home town and where he works. I have met several of his friends and work colleagues who also seem very nice and who seem to genuinely welcome me as his wife.I have met his boss. He took me to stay with his family who were lovely to me. He has not hidden me away.I have told him I have no money and he says it is me he wants not money.

And i love him.....

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