The "there's bad people in every culture" excuse to justify your relationship.

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Aug 7, 2008 at 19:12

I can understand your attraction to this man, but here are some points to consider for your own good:

First of all, what do you expect to find on here? This board is full of women who have been burned by both Western men and Middle Eastern men. If you actually read this board as carefully as you seem to want us to believe, you'd note that

a) I have mentioned Western men, Russian, Nigerian, Asian and Latino women as being just as likely to make a scam

b) Many of the women on here are divorced, and dating a Muslim or a Moroccan isn't even their first choice.

Second of all, in the USA we have something called freedom, provided the far left doesn't gain power. People are free to marry whoever they want, and it is illegal to deny martial rights based alone on race.

What you are talking about are cultural pressures. Again, had you read more posts, you would know that I have talked about something called de facto segregation---Segregation by choice.

Look all the major cities, Destori. People live by people who look and think like they do. No amount of false presentation on multiculturalism will change how people fundamentally feel, including your engagement.

If you look at the census of ANY country, especially the USA, you'll find that most people date within their race. Why? Because it's what makes people most comfortable.

Third, if your man is so wonderful, why are you wasting time on here? What I think happened is you saw a few comments, got all angry, and decided to defend your man's ethnicity.

Congratulations. I'm sure you feel unique, but honestly, Destroi, I've seen seen this before.

Fourth, the excuse of "well, there's bad people in any culture, so it's okay for me to marry my Moroccan."
People who are in normal, stable relationships don't need to go on-line and tell us about it, ok? If they see something on-line, they just ignore it! Just like if they got a dirty look out in pubic! I'll bet you wouldn't confront anyone face-to-face on this, Destroi, and you'll have to prove to me that you would.

Fifth, where is your man as you are on-line defending him? Cheating on you? Can't say it'd be the first time.

Sixth, do you think your man would defend your culture? Or does he see you as a piece of Western meat? If so, wouldn't be the first.

So, as you can see, it would seem that I have once again validated most of the arguments on here. Of course, I don't approve of name-calling, but if you think you're going to come on here and expect Moroccan men to be glorified, forget it. Too many women have been burned on here. I don't expect you to appreciate that, but you may yet get the chance should your man turn out to be the person you didn't think he was.

By your mere presence on here, I have ample reason to believe all is not well in your relationship. I wouldn't be surprised if this were another hit and run post, but I would stick around. You might actually realize what you have isn't real. Maybe that's what you're afraid of.

After all, you said you were searching for a dictionary...why? Communication is fundamental to marriage, and you won't be happy with someone you can't talk to.

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