He who stole my heart...

Submitted by Meshoo Hashem (Puerto Rico), Aug 8, 2008 at 01:35

Hi,

I am a christian latina who met this jordanian man in Jordan who lives and works in Qatar. I went on vacation to Jordan and met him thru a friend. Since the moment I met him at the airport something clicked. We had the opportunity to hang out and I spend time with him and his family. It was awesome!

He is friendly, nice, focused, driven and is excellent with his family....from what I saw. He has a US visa, lived and worked in the US for two years. He has his temper and he is very rooted in his beliefs although he dosen't practice them all. He dosen't pray, he smokes, drinks and eats pork. When the time came for me to leave he wanted me to stay, however I didn't. It seemed crazier than the fact that i had fallen for a guy in 7 days and was seriously considering in marrying him when he asked me if I would consider it...after got to know each other more.

Came back to my country the second day he wrote me. We started talking thru the internet and even though his english is very good it is not our first language... so i would have to blame the internet and language barrier in part... not all of the misuderstandings that we had. His reactions were quite violent he would cut off the conversations and leave me hanging when we had a disagreement and use foul language when I asked him not to do that so we can respect each other and not start with the wrong foot.

Among the things that he said in conversations was that he was willing to bring where he was if I agreed. Ii said that i had to know what opportunities I would have in Qatar if I moved there after getting married...cause I wanted to work. He said I did not have to work... i just needed to be the Queen of my Kingdom. I could still be a christian...that he would go to church with me but the children had to be muslims...that he couldn't have christian children in front of his people and in his country.

That he did not care what they thought of me being a christian...that he would never made me change my ways. I asked where my Kingdom subscribe to he said the house. I asked if I was going to be able to leave the house and after mocking me he said... how are you going to take the children to school? of course you will leave the house and you will need a car. However he was upset because of my question.

I asked cause I had no idea of how life was in Qatar for women. The fact that he got so upset and shut down cutt off the conversation and did not have the patience to guide me and expalin me freaked me out and it hurt. Little by little he has drawn away...saying that he could not allow his heart anymore to express his feelings but from our emails and conversations he truly wished that i will be his wife and wanted to have a Baby girl with me. I asked why specifically a baby girl ...he said that was his dream a girl first than a boy.

Time has pass by and he has simply shut down... I guess he did not like my questions...and the fact that I was not sure if I wanted children. It does hurt that he would change his ways completely...just like that and keep a distance. I don't know if this is a testimony for others to compare with their specific situations, or if it just ventilating...or hoping someone with maturity, honesty and thoughtfullness will be willing to answer without making me feel worse than I already feel because i have lost him.... He who stole my heart...

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