can someone explain to me what this is all about?

Submitted by annie (United States), Aug 10, 2008 at 16:06

I met my husband online he is 26 and I am 44...although I questioned the age difference he seemed quite mature and is studying in a PHD program (here on an F-1) visa. Now I am an educated woman with my masters and have owned my own clinical practice for 10 years. In the begining he was wonderful thoughtful and full of warm wishes and compliments. Many times when we are out together people mistake me for a college student (I look young for my age) then he wanted us to move into together I agreed, and although he never prays or attends the mosque on campus, suddenly us living together was not right, we must get married.

Now I was very hesitant, but after weeks I agreed, so we met in Dec of 06 and married April 07. I believe two to three weeks into the marriage suddenly things began to change.

He didn't want me talking to my family, he would hide in the basement to listen to phone conversations..He would tell me what the contents of my phone conversatons were aloud to be. What is this? He also started criticizing me saying hurtful things to me. I had shared some private things that happened to me as a child and he threw them up in my face. and rage, I couldn't believe it, smashing a cell phone, punching a hole in the wall, pushing me when I was pregnant. Swearing at me in Turkish.. then he would get on the phone with his parents and be all smiles and happy.

I have caught him online talking to other women, and doing other disgusting and dishonoring behavior, and he has this unique way of "flipping the script" that it is my fault. Well the most recent event on a trip back from visiting my family outwest while I was driving 70 mph on the interstate he started yelling I told him to quit and he punched me, so hard that still 3 weeks later I have the mark. He said he was sorry and that I should call the police and report it, he was willing to face the consequences for what he had done and you know what I did....and now he says "I Can't believe you called them, I never thought that you would do that, I just said that I didn't mean it"

Is he crazy or just highly immature. My father was in Morrocco and Turkey a few years ago, he said the little children were full of joy, lovely, but the young men are full of rage, hate the world. What is this all about? I have read several other post on this site that state the same thing, I don't think this is a coincidence. and he also bad mouths the US a lot, I ask him why doesn't he go back to Turkey, he doesn't respond.. can someone please explain this to me...the attitude....the rage...

annie in maryland

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