Re: He Who Stole My Heart

Submitted by JB (United States), Aug 11, 2008 at 18:10

Meshoo,

Please do not marry him. It is better to suffer the pain of forgetting him than to suffer years together. Your experience with his responses is not because as you state "...language barrier ..." Sure, there is a language barrier. However, think about it. Writing requires a constant analysis of what is being written. If, while writing, he already gets mad at you, leaves you hanging, uses foul language, what makes you believe that he will react differently when discussing issues face to face?

At present, the thought of having a baby with him may give you pleasure. However, do not stop there. Think a few years forward. As children come, you will be pressured to convert to Islam for the sake of family unity. Are you prepared to do this? Moreover, are you prepared for your children to be muslims? Even if you are prepared to convert, Islam as a religion treats womenfolks as property. Because you are a christian, I assume that you expect him to respect you as you ought to be respected, to cherish you as you ought to be cherished and to love you as you ought to be loved. However, the teaching of Islam puts womenfolks at a level of a chattel. What this means is that he is allowed to treat you as a belonging. He is allowed to take away your civil rights, because as a woman in an Islamic country, your rights is only so good as the rights granted by your husband or other menfolk in your household.

If you think that you are destined to marry him, then my heartfelt prayer for you. However, before you embark on this difficult journey, please do your due diligence by reading up on Islam's treatment of women.

Godspeed Meshoo.

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