polly

Submitted by hisham zein (Egypt), Aug 14, 2008 at 20:19

i really wonder why do you need advice here, its so clear ... you dont trust him at all .your feminine instinct is telling you not to ...

searching his messages in his cell phone is a strong sign of mistrust ...and an act of mistrust ..

as an egyptian myself i can see this guy is wasting his valuable time ....life will never wait for him till he decides ..he is now 27 yrs old and if graduated from egypt he should have been graduated 6 eyars ago .... hadnt he found a job all those years ...studying will never pay any bills unless he is certain his studies will give him better opportunities ...

what kind of studies is he into anyway ....the AUC ( stands for the american university in cairo and established 1920 by the way ) doesnt have all majors to study .

on the other hand his folks work in an oil rich country ...boring life because of restrictions right but for great paycheques its great ... i think his folks can help him have a job over there depending on what he studies .... but you living in qatar i dont think you will stand it there or even here in cairo as you may have noticed...yes very much less restriction but not the kind of life you used to maintain .

since no trust prevails and you see him as a womanizing guy i dont see any happy future for the both of you ....the guy is not serious to marry you or live with you ...am also wondering if he is really serious studying in the US ..since you gave him the magic solution to enter the US and finish his studies by marriage visa and he rejected your offer .....

i should blame you for offering him this alternative since women who marry non americans to let them have a greencard are doing it for living ....you made yourself seem like one of them .

in general i believe love is a balance .. a balance of love . trust. sincerity, decency , loyality ....both sides should have equal amount of each ingredient

why dont you put him under a hard test ..give him two choices its either he decides something serious or you leave him forever and corner him with a time limit .... you cant have a brokenheart twice ..its too damaging ..

NO polly this relationship will not work out fine .... i can see nothing but serious attempts from your side and lots of excuses from his side ....

you wasted some years of the best time in one's life in a relationship full of uncertainity ...step back and never think of it as another brokenheart time ....let it go so simply

good luck

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