Dear Virgy: On webcam and on-line relationships

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Aug 16, 2008 at 16:36

Hi Virgy!

Well, first of all let me say that your English is very good, and I think you will make a good translator some day!

It's always nice to talk to fellow Catholic, although I do go to mass on Holy Days and every Sunday, since I try and follow the Church's teaching in most cases, and I'm sure you'll find that I come from a traditional background.

I think it's a good thing that you're keeping your eyes open over this even though you two are just starting out.

I wouldn't say that on-line dating is NEVER successful, it just takes on a whole new meaning across international borders.

The other to be aware of about men who say they are X religion but live freely: It may or may not apply to you as the woman. Who knows, for sure Virgy? He may be looking for a woman to stay at home with the kids and he might afraid for you to have male friends or go out into public for fear of someone seeing you.

This has happened a few times with stories on here, and it wouldn't be the first.

Also, learning about Islam---the good and the bad--- is important, but also have him learn about Catholicism. If he doesn't want to, he's not as opened minded as he would have you believe.

I also know you come from Argentina, a country with problems, as you say. I'm sure you're very proud to be from there, and I guess there is not a sensitive way to say this, but if I were scamming for a visa, Argentina may not seem like a good choice, but a lot times men (or women) who do this will take what they can get, and while Argentina's constitution does say the country should support the Catholic Church, it also has much more freedom than some places in the Middle East.

There's just so much drama that comes from on-line dating across the sea in a lot of cases, and it's not something I would do, not to meet someone internationally anyway.

I would say don't restrict yourself to this man, I mean, do feel free to date other men in person as well. I find that one of the problems with all this on-line stuff is people get so attached. I know, because it has happened to me a few times too.

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