every experience unique

Submitted by Lina (United Kingdom), Aug 18, 2008 at 18:15

First of all, the success of a muslim-non-muslim relationship is all down to instinct. You have to genuinely love each other, not just see each other as a "hot, exotic muslim" or "easy western girl". It doesn't matter where you're from, if you really like someone. Middle Eastern muslims generally prefer younger wives, North Africans aren't as ageist.

Personally, my mother married a Moroccan man and, although they divorced, he still loves her. I will admit that a lot of people from countries like Egypt, Turkey etc. do marry for financial purposes - I've seen men & women plan it firsthand - but that's not always the case. Sometimes you just fall for each other, no one can stop that. There are plenty of non-conservative muslim families, but even if they don't accept you, they have no right to interfere, and hopefully the muslim guy has a mind of his own.

You have to take precautions, show that you're not another gullible "Shirley Valentine" early in the relationship, and that you're not "easy" - North African men tend to laugh at women like that, as they prefer smarter girls with more self-respect. But remember that every experience is unique - sure, listen to advice, but don't think that all guys will rip you off. It is necessary to have your own experience and to make - or not to make - your own mistakes in life.

Long-distance relationships can be cruel, but also beautiful if you're compatible, and don't just see "hot piece of ass" or "$$$" in each other.

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