Don't blame the world - it's you that's shallow

Submitted by jennifer solis (United States), Aug 19, 2008 at 18:46

"It's impossible to swim in a world this shallow" - quoting you, Polly. Excuse me, but it sounds like YOU are the one that's "shallow". I'm guessing that you "love" this guy, but you advise him to marry another woman so he can come to the U.S.?! That is the last thing any gal who loves a guy would say. Plus, it shows dishonesty and trickery on your part - I'm sure this guy REALLY respects you now - NOT.

I don't want to sound too harsh, but I really think that you have created your own misery.

It's part of growing up - you make some bad decisions, and you can make MORE bad decisions on top of that (the easy way), or you can face reality and STOP the bad choices (the hard but only way to stop the misery).

In other words, it's harder to STOP and admit you and you alone are responsible for your OWN misery by staying WAY TOO LONG with a guy who needs time to mature and get on his own two feet. He can't do that while he has you hanging around bugging him.

Let this poor guy go out of your life and WORK ON HIMSELF, while you WORK ON YOURSELF. That way, when you meet someone who is truly worthy, and wants (and is ready for) love, you will be able to give love back - instead of the childish games you have been playing at.

A good "rule of thumb" - wait for a guy you can learn from. There is no love without respect.

You have to be happy alone before you can be happy with somebody else. Good luck.

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