Ageism, International Relationships, Being unique

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Aug 19, 2008 at 19:07

1) It has noted on here, several times, that Muslim men prefer younger women. It has little to do with Islam, because that is what men in general prefer regardless of religion, and it has more to do with biology than anything else.

There is a growing trend here in the West of younger men having flings with older women, and now some European women take sex vacations to North Africa. So, what does "North Africans aren't into ageism" mean? Well, it basically stems from two things:

a) While Islamic law is the code for these countries, it isn't enforced like it is on the Arabian peninsula.

b) The reason why ageism doesn't come into play, I think, are because both parties put out.

2) Half of all marriages in the USA fail. When you add the distance, the cultural differences to the mix, it really makes it all the more harder.

3) The reason why many international relationships fail are because many are scams and involve lots of lying. I don't care what religions or ethnicities are involved. I'm sure you've heard the phrase "we all bleed red if pricked." Well, we all also lie in the same manner as well. The ones that aren't lies and scams, well, either the attraction overcomes the cultural differences, but many times it doesn't seem to.

Why is that? Because people don't like to change who they fundamentally are, ESPECIALLY when someone else wants them too.

Dr. Pipes notes that some Western women agree to raise their kids Muslims. But why is that, Lina? Because they believe Islam is the one true religion? Hardly. It's because they want a family, or I guess as is more and more apparent the longer I am on here, they like his looks.

Also, religion just isn't important to them in general, so while the Muslim man smiles as though he accomplished something for his beloved religion, he may not have done much. If anything, the secular influence also penetrates Islam.

Lina, I've been lied to by women from Asia, Africa, North American and South America. Several of my female friends have had extremely negative experiences with on-line dating as well.

4) The fact of the matter is that your parent's marriage ended in divorce. If they truly loved each other in the same level of love that makes a marriage work, they would not have gotten divorced. Divorce, in many cases these days, is an easy answer. Regarding the stories on here, it is a necessary one in order for women to keep their sanity, and in many cases, the relationship was doomed from the start.

5) Being unique. I've been on here for eight months. Nearly every single time I see a post, the person wants to believe they've got the real deal. Everyone wants to think that, because the alternative is most unpleasent to say the least.

Just because certain circumstances arise where one couple likes vanilla as opposed to strawberry ice cream, yeah, I guess could say that's unique.

The key to reading what people say on blogs (and I've been doing this for a long time now) are looking for patterns. This is also what therapists will do. They won't pay attention to the unique sensory details of your relationship, but they are going to look for symptoms. What are signs of deceit based on your communication?

Sometimes, Lina, women on here will write a big, long narrative. They'll talk about a lot of things. But the signs of deceit, scams and really just men out for sex and playing games are really all the same, regardless of the smaller details.

That is the error that will get people into trouble.

Just look at the US census, Lina. Despite the fact that that media caters to whiners in the minority who want to see interracial coupling, it doesn't happen most of the time. People, BY FAR, marry in their own ethnic group, economic status or religion. That is a FACT.

The phrase "opposites attract" may be true, but couples who are more similar in nature have a much better shot at being happy than those who have stark differences.

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