To Lina

Submitted by Amanda (Germany), Aug 20, 2008 at 03:07

Of course you are right - every experience is unique. But on this blog, the experiences women tell about have MANY features in common, so I think generalizing is not only permitted here, but it serves a good purpose. Every single one of us here started out by thinking "THIS relationship is unique" - only to find that it was frighteningly similar to the relationships other woman here have had.

Ignoring these red flags can get women into a lot of trouble further down the line, so saying just follow your heart, go ahead with the experience, etc. is not the best advice for the women in these situations which they shouldn't be in in the first place. Saying every experience is unique (which boils down to who knows whether the relationship is good) is no help to women who clearly need some very firm direction.

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