ageism, islam, scams

Submitted by Lina (United Kingdom), Aug 20, 2008 at 15:59

yes, of course men worldwide are into younger women, although it's especially true in the Middle East due to the fact that the society is generally more chauvinistic and traditionally-minded. ie. young girls are seen as "just ripe", purer meat, less likely to answer back etc. That said, Middle Eastern men - like a lot of men - are just into "freshly formed" figures, regardless of age. To them, a girl's a woman from the age of 13 if she's developed.

I agree with your comments on ageism, as well as the countless amount of scams that take place between younger-older couples worldwide. And ageism does exist in North Africa, but, a lot of North African men seek mother figures - whether this is due to childhood circumstances or whether it's simply a preference, I don't know. But generally, young North African men aren't as into younger girls as, say, Saudi men.

I personally don't agree with online relationships, you need to look someone in the eye before you can say that you trust them in the slightest. As for flings, it's fair enough having a quick holiday fling if you're both consenting adults. He wants a bit of vanilla, she wants a bit of caramel in her ice cream, go for it! Lol, but I wouldn't advise them to even consider marriage if it's not serious.

In terms of non-Muslims converting to Islam on the basis of simply liking the looks of their partner, well that's definitely wrong (morally), and such relationships are destined to fail. Because one day, the hot young man might lose his youthful Mediterranean looks, and turn into his miserable conservative father, and the wife will be tied down by a religion that she never really believed in in the first place. And when they (most likely) get a divorce, the woman will face a great deal of shame, both religiously and socially.

Well I don't really know much about my parent's divorce, but my point was that the Moroccan man still had feelings for her even after he'd gotten his Visa, etc. So it's not like they all reap the benefits then run back to their wife in the mountains.

And yes, I've heard the same thing over and over, that this one's "different", these women are so sure that they won't get cheated. I've seen it so often, men & women being scammed, and a lot of the time the women have an inkling that their new love isn't really into them nearly as much as they'd like to think - but they deny it because no one likes to think that their love was one-sided. Who does? But generally, it depends on the woman (or man). If a woman pours her heart out to anyone with a cute smile and a nice tan, she most likely will land up in tears at the end of it. If someone goes out actively looking for a holiday romance, she most likely will get done over, because it's all physical... but sometimes, genuine love just happens, and there's nothing anyone can do to stop it.

We're all on the same planet, just because there's borders between countries, it doesn't mean we should all stay away from each other and stick to our own.

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