Dear Broken Heart---Generosity and Strippers

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Aug 21, 2008 at 00:27

Broken Heart, I have read your most recent posts in the last two weeks.

On behalf of men everywhere, please allow to apologize for Hamid's behavior, as we are not all like that.

I wanted to touch on the issue of being generous. Yes, I agree that we have a duty (you might call it) to help those less fortunate.

Hamid's story is a sad one, and it's very sensitive of you to understand his frustrations. I have little doubt that he is upset to see so many rich tourists.

However, he is not correct if he thinks that everything in the West is given. Many people work very hard for what they have.

What we must keep in mind, Broken Heart, is that it is one thing to join the Peace Core, a Christian mission or become a Mother Theresa, and it's entirely different to buy someone electronics in exchange for sex.

I thought the same thing too, I even convinced my myself it was job to make my myspace woman happy by doing this. It was the worst kind of lie.

if you are receiving sex or romantic favors in return, it's really not "giving." That's more or less a verbal contract for want of consent.

I was recently at a meeting for Christian missionaries going to Central America. The director said that often times, people want to give the Hispanic children candy. He said that it's not a good idea at all. The children are malnourished to begin with, and candy is really the last thing they need.

This is true of Hamid, I think. He doesn't expensive electronics like that to get by, broken heart. And I know you offered to help him into the EU, but it's really not giving if you are getting something like sex in return.

I appreciate your willingness to share such intimate details with us, I think it will help others see what happens.

See, female strippers over here in the US do the same. My friend was at a strip club a couple of years ago, and a lady sat down on his lap, gave him a big sob story, and he forked over about 10-15 pounds.

See, it's just a sales trick to get money.

I know you also asked Hisham about strength, and his posts are very invigorating and his presence encouraging, I would like to add the BEST thing you can do: Is stay away from the phone and computer. If he's on messanger or AIM or whatever, don't hesitate to block him or even uninstall those programs for a time.

I got so fed up with on-line crap, at one time I deleted everything: facebook, myspace, AIM, Yahoo, MSN, everything, and I didn't have to worry about it anymore.

Get out and have some fun. Expand your social circles. Hang out with your friends. Treat yourself. Don't sit at home alone and think the internet is your only solace.

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