Yasemin please read what was behind this suggestion which was not even mine

Submitted by Polly (Cyprus), Aug 24, 2008 at 03:12

Dear Yasemin,

I don't blame you for feeling so angry.

But it's not me who suggested Canada to this guy in order to complete his studies. Unfortunately, a lot of Arabs who were studying in the US and are not permitted to get a visa anymore, they apply to Canadian universities in order to be able to finish. So, i never suggested such a thing to him honey, therefore i am not the one to bring these people in your country.

Nevertheless, i believe that we shouldn't reach their level and understand that besides what is going on, it is very bad when people have dreams to finish their studies in the best and most prestigious universities (US), therefore, they spend great amounts of money, hope, and efforts to achieve them, but at the end of the day the authorities just stop them, cut their dreams into pieces, and never allow them to go back.

In my case, at the time when i was trying to help this guy (before i realize who he trully is), he was a best friend to me. A best friend who has stood next to me while i was crying and i was in so much pain during the hardest times of my life. He was the one to take care of me when i was alone away from my family while trying to complete my studies in a big country like the US. I was struggling to make it. I had to face difficulties in every aspect, and he was next to me.

Therefore, when i, for example, suggested to him to marry an american woman (under the condition that she would be aware of the whole situation), or when he was thinking about going to Canada, i wasn't not seeing him as an enemy, but as my best friend, as human who went through, and still going through, a very difficult period, who i had to stand next to.

My dream has always been to finish my studies in the United States and if this dream was cut in pieces, i have no idea how would i react. Imagine dear Yasemin that all his belongings are still there. Clothes, car, furniture. He actually passed out and had many health problems because of this situation. And its not only him, but his mother as well. His family worries a lot about this situation. Plus, in such cases, you need to also face society.

From the time you were happy and proud because you study in such a prestigious university in the US, where degrees are considered to be the best ones in the world, you end up with nothing in your hands. People ask you to find out things..and you are in the bad position to have to explain to them that you have done NOTHING, but the embassy has all of a sudden rejected me for a visa and doesn't allow me to go back.

Dear Yasemin and everyone, i believe that even if we have worst enemies in our lives, we should never lose the good side of ourselves and still try to help them out in bad situations. I just realize that what i have suggested was a very bad idea, but i need people here to understand why and what is the reason i have reached this point to suggest such a thing. I was trying to listen to and help out a person in pain which has been caused to him because he did nothing; because it is unfair. Now that i know what an a** he has been with me in a personal level..even if he calls me one day to ask me for a favor which would be very important for him and i know it can help him..i will do it. without this meaning that i will get close to him again or attached to him but just because i am a human being first and above all and i will never lower myself by not helping a person in need of his peer.

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