Thanks Luigi: re online muslim Turk

Submitted by NurseJo (Australia), Aug 26, 2008 at 22:14

hi Luigi

Thank you for replying so honestly to my queries. I have spent ages reading the blogs on here. Not many success stories are there? which sends up warning signs. I might add that I am not in the habit of online dating. This is new to me. As for dating where there will be cultural hurdles to jump makes it makes it even more difficult.

I have cammed with this man, to try to read his facial expressions. Nothing to give me concerns. He looks normal.lol. But what is normal you ask? You can see in their eyes. Window to the soul. I am not a foolish silly woman, don't worry I will not fall if I have doubts. But do the eyes lie you ask? Of course they can.

If you meet someone online in person it needs to be day which I know. Very public place and have backup plan. A number in your mobile etc. Do I take a chance and meet with him? At this stage I don't know. He is coming to Australia to meet with relatives of his.later this year for holiday.

A bit of background on me .Since divorced I met up with a local Australian man. Nice guy never married and but would never commit. I was with him for 8 yrs but two years ago I moved out to another town, for reasons unrelated to our relationship.,I needed to get my son into another school. This man and I are no longer an item.

Another thing I have learnt.There are rats in every culture worldwide. I have nursed men from from different nationalities.and cultures European men can be rude, demanding and generally do not respect women, not all I may add. I am not summising all just majority They are used to their wives being their servants, catering immediately to their every whim and do not understand the word ,wait ,,because we nurses may have to tend to others. Please do not take offence European men to my comment. As i said is just my observance.

I have friends who have been cheated and lied to by Australian men too ,it is not a behaviour exclusive to one culture or one religion. Some Australian men can be chauvanistic and ignorant too.

Back to the subject of my turkish man.If I smell a rat he probably is a rat .Right? My plan is to keep quizzing this man on every aspect, no question for me is taboo. I have said I am not his passport to Australia either , If he thinks this he is in for disappointment. His answers as I mentioned in my last post are always truthful, and honest and he answers immediately . Body language is not uncomfortable, so far he is doing well.

So what are my plans now? I do not know. Maybe I'll meet and have dinner with this man , Maybe not .At this stage that is up in the air. I'm struggling if I would cope with the differences in beliefs and cultures. Hence me coming to this blog.

To the lied and cheated on woman and men on this blog, it is unfortunate that you have been hurt, pick yourself up dust off and hold your head high, you are all amazing. I do not wish to be a statistic too. I will be careful. I'll keep you posted.

Kindest regards to you all

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