Re trusting turks

Submitted by yasemin (Canada), Aug 28, 2008 at 12:33

"Trustworthy Turk" seems like an oxymoron, a total contradiction of terms. Early on I was told the turkish proverb "If you shake hands on a deal with a turk, count your fingers after to make sure they're all still there."

My time there has shown me time and again that they cannot be trusted. Even my Turkish divorce lawyer who swore to carry out my wishes for the divorce case even if i returned home, has disappeared so that now i receive no alimony and have no idea if I'm married. She refuses to respond to my many emails. This is what they do when you are no longer useful to them, no matter how educated they are. They are incredibly charming on the surface but they are only interested in their own welfare. If this guy is well-off, there would be no shortage of local women to choose from. This tells me he wants something more - maybe a visa, maybe just the fun of playing games with women. He may be married - you'll never know. Telling you he's well-off may be just a trick to keep you hanging around.

With all due respect for Luigi's advice, I don't believe you can always learn more meeting in person. They are extremely crafty people.

The red flags i see are (a) he's a Turk and (b) if he's well-off, why is he looking for someone outside of his country ?

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