Shelia, please read

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Aug 30, 2008 at 18:21

Hi there Shelia!

Here's the thing: If your man is out until the wee hours of the morning and going on pleasure trips to his home country and not inviting you, one thing is clear:

He doesn't respect you to say the least, and he probably doesn't love either.

Anymore, you say? I wonder if he even did in the first place.

Unfortunately, Shelia some men (and women) have this whole deal planned out even before you are married.

The reality is, Shelia, he is not going to change.

I would really get out of that situation as soon as possible. If the abuse is still going on, I would seriously go to the police ASAP and tell them about this situation and see if you can't get into a battered women's shelter, or make arrangements to live with a friend or relative, but you're going to have to do this secretly. So, plan accordingly, maybe the next time he is out late.

I know this seems like a lot, Shelia, but there's no way around it: this is the wrong man to marry. I have no doubt that you love him, but he just doesn't care, he may never have and probably never will.

Whatever the case is, you deserve better than this, Shelia.

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