Hey

Submitted by Mel (United Kingdom), Sep 1, 2008 at 12:00

Hey,

He may be the one but the fact that you're having doubts which are totally normally tells me that you should " if you wanted to have an extremely long engagment don't get married just yet. you don't know him that well and as some who is only 25, I can tell you that at the age of 20 I was with my boyfriend for 2 years, met him when i was 18 but feel in love with him when i was only 15.. long story :o) he was hot! anyway my point is I only ever loved him, he was my world as dramatic as that sounds. I never normally get like that and even though we broke up near 6 years ago i still miss him.

BUT its taken me 6 years to see that he was never really into me as much as I loved him. My ex made me believe I was his one and only and that we would get married and have babies... we even choose their names! how sad... :o) Anyway, I soon fell pregnant.... Yep I was only 19.... I couldnt believe it, As much as I loved him I knew my dad would kill me!! So I cried for like a month and he suggested I have an abortion after all once we were married we could do things the " right way" he said. Of course, I believed him and loved him so much.

Soon after the abortion he turned cold, not answering my calls as much... no longer being there for me... what happend to "one day" All i'm saying is there's no rush. You sound like a clever girl with her head screwed on. What ever you decide I hope it makes you happy. But please take your time. You cant lose that way.

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