To Mel: re same boat

Submitted by nursejo (Australia), Sep 1, 2008 at 21:43

Hi there,

Thanks Mel ,Yasemin, Luigi, for your comments, advice etc.

So same boat Mel , I wish you all the best with your relationship.

As i mentioned internet dating ,romance, relationship? is difficult at the best of times. I have only had one internet romance before this when my heart skipped when we chatted. and he was a local living only 1/2 hour drive away. not overseas! I was able to meet that person after 3 weeks chatting. and we were together for 8 years. With my Turk man due to distance I have to wait. another 4 months.

My Turk man is absolutely charming , kind, thoughtful, attentive and a gentleman. He is a man of his word and I have no suspicions that he may be lying. Mel you mentioned that online is only words but my what sweet words. Yes he is coming to me in December to spend some time together, so face to face I have an opportunity to get to know this man and have a more real courtship. I am hoping that if there are flaws in his personality I will be more able to pick up on them then.

At present I am not worried about him wanting to use me for permanent residency in Australia. He is coming here to live regardless and has visited here a few times in the past before talking to me. He is at present selling his business he owns and retiring from his other job in May sometime then moving to Australia. I think his uncle who has been married to an Australian lady for 25 years is arranging the residency for him. He tells me he will keep his large home in Istanbul for now maybe renting it out and wants me to visit with him there in the future.

Ok now for the negatives. All this does seem like a fairytale don't it. I am not a foolish person although i am hung up on the romance of it all. All women regardless of race culture or the like love to be made feel special and often common sense will fly out the window and you are left panting like an in love schoolgirl.I realise internet chatting has caused people in the past tears and heartache from believing a charming talker. I have taken advice from friends on board and at present will see where this leads once i get my head back down from the clouds.

Thanks you guys for this great blog, its a forum i have been reading with great interest

take care all

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