Relationship-baiting and suicide

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Sep 4, 2008 at 19:30

Hi there! Thanks for sharing!

Here's the thing: Threatening suicide is just a way to blackmail someone, it is NOT a culturally-exclusive thing. I was in an internet, distance relationship with an agnostic, American socialist and she would threaten suicide when she didn't get her way.

Eventually, I told one of her parents that I was seriously considering calling the police, and that is what you are supposed to do when someone threatens suicide. Don't buy into their nonsense, Anon.

My advice to your friend is for her to leave this man. Honestly, if a guy from her home country pulled a stunt like that, she'd probably see it as a sign of insecurity, which it it is.

So tell her to stop giving his man leniancy because he's Tunisian or because the relationship is new or whatever the reason is.

It's time for her to move on and forget about this man. If you knew were he lives, I would call the police and tell them, but I wouldn't be surprised at all if he's faking.

Sometimes, it happens with race too. I've known cases where people will date just to show they aren't racist. What a stupid reason, and it happens along the same lines "If you don't date me, you're racist." People who don't agree with me on blogs have called me racist/homophobe/islamophobe.

It's about as effective with me as a soccer player arguing with the referee.

So, don't buy into this.

The other point I want to address is change. People rarely change, but in relationships, it's usually the woman who does. If she is willing to change for this man, she obviously believes his nonsense, right?

I had a friend who was recently changed by a man. She was so desperate, right after they started dating, they would make out in public and she moved in with him right away, and he does drugs. Nice, huh? And the whole time, she completely blew off our group of friends.

So, if she thinks this is unique, tell her what I've told you. It's all old and actually quite common.

There's another problem here: read what you wrote again carefully:

I don't know much about him but I know I don't trust him anymore. His name is Momo and he worked in the Hotel El Kebir last year.

Did you ever truly trust him? Can you trust someone that you don't know much about?

That's why so many international relationships fail!

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