Real, Matrimonial love doesn't happen over the internet

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Sep 5, 2008 at 21:47

Eviana:

I know that you are hurting and heartbroken, and many of us on here have experienced the same thing. The most unfair part of on-line dating is that it can feel more than what it really is.

Please know that what you felt was probably infatuation or some other related emotion. Real love just can't happen on-line. Why? Because you've never even seen him. Webcams? Ok, but I've done that before too, many times. The time delays, the sincerity the confidence it ALL can be fabricated on there.

We've also had posts about polygamous marriage before. Regardless of what the Quran says, the reality is, Eviana, if you think it hurts now just knowing that he's with someone else, imagine being the room next to him while he's making love to someone else.

The danger there is that he may not even want a sincere, heartfelt relationship with you anyway, maybe he just wanted someone to do the dishes and the chores while doing you on the side whenever he felt like it.

In a polygamous relationship, Eviana, the man CANNOT give himself COMPLETELY to you. Even if you think you can lure him with charms and what-not, you may be surprised at how resistant (and even intimidated) by that he would be. He would probably expect you to obey him.

Four wives?

How about one wife and three concubines.

I really wonder at how "educated" women from the West can even consider this nonsense, especially with all the abrasive attacks the extreme feminist movement makes against Christians. I suppose it's because of their own spiritual vacuum that they cannot ultimately reconile with and eventually break down and submit themselves into despair and feel this is their only way out.

Eviana, my advice is to seriously get away from the computer, uninstall ICQ, and hangout with your friends in REAL life. Go see your family, expand your social circles, meet new people, treat yourself, but for goodness sake, STOP MOPING IN FRONT OF YOUR COMPUTER!!!

Don't worry about checking up on him, it will only make things worse, if you can even find him, and if you do, what then? A married man who has a dating profile?

Boy, that sure sounds like a catch, huh?

This is your life. He is one man. If the rest of us on here can get over our on-line relationships, Eviana, so can you!

Speaking as a guy, his interest in you probably wasn't sincere or very high at all if he married someone else.

Just move on, Eviana.

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