Is the guy Muslim?

Submitted by Ampbreia (United States), Sep 6, 2008 at 06:03

Muslims aren't supposed to date. If he has just gone back to the homeland for a visit, you can rest assured that he has been reminded of this. Also, his comment of "I wouldn't chose anyone over you" is a hint that his family is putting the pressure on for him to marry.

Marriage in a traditional Muslim family is by arrangement only. Just recently, in Pakistan, 5 women were beaten, shot, stoned, and buried while still breathing just because 3 of them (teenagers) wanted to marry for love and of their own chosing and the other 2 were adult women trying to protect them.

Dating in Islam is discouraged because it is considered unchaste, even to being a kind of fornication, and this can get you 80 lashes with a whip in a public square in most, if not all, Islamic countries. In Iran, it sometimes results in hanging. Adultery is a death sentence - at least for women it is. The punishment is either hanging or being stoned to death.

He will have been adjured to either marry a cousin of his family's choosing (cousins are preferred, hence the high rate of birth defects in Islamic nations) or break it off with you or marry and convert you to Islam.

If he doesn't want to just continue dating you, that will be the reason. I'm not kidding.

I once faced that decision myself and actually married the guy because I was so infatuated with him and he said that was the way it was supposed to be. It was the worst mistake of my life and he was so not worth it in retrospect.

Read and heed my personal experiences on the matter: http://www.faithfreedom.org/forum/viewtopic.php?p=2041&sid=748c77c015fc2e05c28761ecb9f8bde4

Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments".