Just be careful

Submitted by broken heart (United Kingdom), Sep 7, 2008 at 14:52

It would be wrong to say that no it could not work, as each case is unique. I wish mine had, but no I was to become another typical story for older western women and younger north african men - typical in every sense.

My advice to you is be careful, be alert and don't forgive every transgression, or mood swing. Enjoy the moment but keep your eyes OPEN. Sadly lying is very easy for these men as so many do it and share their stories with each other. The goal may be sex, or money, or a visa or all of these. I hope I am wrong and that your case is different and you have found your partner.

I forgave too much, overlooked the lies and accepted insults and manipulation - all because I wanted him so badly. In retrospect a relationship that starts this way has no where to go but bad and painful places.

No need to test him as he will reveal himself. Just keep your eyes open and WALK AWAY as much as it hurts if you see the signs.....

Best of luck and I hope you are the exception.

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