Be strong.

Submitted by Lindsay Conrad (United States), Sep 8, 2008 at 01:45

Muster up the strength to just leave him. The same thing happened to me with my exboyfriend and I blamed myself for a long time and he said the same things to me that he says to you and at the end I found the physical evidence by breaking into his accounts (men are so stupid- they use the same password for everything) and i don't think I waited 2 seconds to send him to go @#$% himself and I never spoke to him again.

I changed my number and everything. You have the physical evidence now so how could you possibly trust him again? It would be a waste of time and you don't deserve a liar and loser like that. Where's the respect?? Don't let him talk you into thinking that he will change or that it is your fault. A woman's intuition is such an amazing thing and you have to go with it and just be strong.

These type of guys really can pull you down so low and make you so confused and depressed that you feel like you just can't do it anymore. But let me tell you one thing: they won't change and once you get out of it, you won't believe how good you feel and then you'll realize how stupid you were for even putting up with him. A huge sense of relief and lightness will come to you really soon after and you will start to enjoy life and love yourself so much. Then you will realize how fun being single is and just taking time to do things you are interested in without constantly worrying what the hell he is doing behind your back and how what he says doesn't match up with the events of what happened.

Believe me, it will happen like this. You will grow from this experience. Don't be mad, be thankful because you will realize that you have learned a lot from this experience. You learn what you don't want. And remember: "accept whatever comes to you woven in the pattern of your destiny; for what could more aptly fit your needs"- Marcus Aurelius. You can do it.

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