Can it work?

Submitted by Amanda (Germany), Sep 9, 2008 at 02:09

Can it work? Yes - one chance in a million, but you probably won't be satisfied until you've tried it. I had a similar experience which ultimately couldn't work because of cultural differences. We had wonderful times together but if I do a cost-benefit analysis in retrospect, I think I overpaid. It was so hard to get over him. If he turns out to be a rat, you'll suffer. And if he turns out to be a nice person like my friend was, it will take ages and many tears before you're over him. Why even start something like this when the odds are against you?

If he's going to take care of everything, as you said, I strongly suggest that you take enough money with you to stay in a hotel, get an early flight back, etc. if things don't go to your liking. It's best to have a back-up plan in a situation like this. If you're entirely dependent on him, you might have to put up with behavior you don't like just because you have no alternative.

And keep reading these posts until you go - you can learn a lot from them.

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