To Luigi: re turkish man

Submitted by nursejo (Australia), Sep 9, 2008 at 22:19

hi Luigi,

I read all your sage advice to others,and thank you for your advice to me also. I may not want to always agree with everything you say but thats just my female stubborness coming out, but your words hold a lot of wisdom.

Cut to the chase now. I so want to believe my Turkish man and see if there is a future there. I guess time will tell. I do believe in giving people the chance while still having a guard up. Luigi you often mention that marriages to these men (or women e.g Russian brides) may not show the flaws till 2-3 years in when true intentions reveal themselves but they can be said of any marriage..As you mentioned these middle eastern men have a long track record of relationship problems due to religous and cultural difficulties. I do agree with you that that is a huge hurdle to jump in any relationship.before any other issues surface.

As for dating a man from around my vicinity. Well the most I meet are players or losers. I have looked in the past but not being one for clubs and singles bars thats out of question, and limits opportunitys to get out there. My age and work commitments are another factor. Leading busy lifestyle does make it difficult. Hence this brings me to the net. Times are changing and as you mentioned the net brings out the creeps also but with my bs filter i can usually get rid of them.. But what's not to say that there is someone out there in my same boat. Maybe a real honest man that I'm hoping my man is, if I not meet with him i'll never know.

Luigi I am very sorry that you got burnt bad but if any man here ever asked for money or wanted to know my finances it would be bye bye baby for him. Also you mentioned that the fact my man is getting residency in Australia sends out warning signals. I have taken this into account and I do realise this is a red flag to watch for. I like many women do want to find that one special love after kissing some frogs i might add. Is this so wrong ?or am i chasing some hopeless dream.

Thanks again Luigi i'm eager for your reply, take care all

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