Thank you Luigi, broken heart, and Amanda

Submitted by Hopeful (Canada), Sep 10, 2008 at 21:10

Thank you all for your advice. I really appreciate it.

Luigi, I've read a lot of your advice on here to others and it is extremely helpful. I will be very cautious. I am pretty cautious with most things in my life. Although I'm very excited about the potential, I'm not convinced that it will be anything more than a fling. But like Amanda said, I won't be satisfied until I try it. I definitely understand that I don't really know him. It is mostly based on physical attraction for now. I will have to see what happens when I visit him and get a better idea of what may actually happen from there.

You're right though, it is an expensive hobby. And not something that I would plan on doing for long. I'm not into long distance relationships. So many things can happen, you can get lonely, meet other people, change your mind, etc, etc. And you really have to trust that other person. And of course, it's hard to trust them when you don't know them.

Broken heart, sorry to hear that it didn't work out for you. It is so hard to go through the heart ache. I will definitely keep my eyes open. I do tend to forgive and forget things a lot, but I will try not to do that in this situation. Thanks to the advice of everyone on here, I definitely have my guard up more so than I would in a "normal" relationship. I'm not sure if I met my partner. I don't think too far ahead, but like I said, I'm always excited about what might be.

Amanda, you're right. If he's a rat, I will be upset. If he's not, it'll be very hard too. Maybe too hard to actually make it work. But I do have to take that chance! I will make sure I can cover the costs in case it doesn't work out. He's never asked me about my money situation, but I do have enough to cover it all if need be. I'm a very independent person, so I like to have all my bases covered. I've never had a guy actually "take care of everything" before. I've usually been the one to carry more costs in a relationship and I am so done with that.

Thank you all. I will definitely keep reading the posts on here.

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