some advice

Submitted by lina (United Kingdom), Sep 11, 2008 at 16:27

My advice would be to not let down your guard. When in foreign countries, people tend to be overwhelmed by the new surroundings/cultures, and sometimes it makes the tourist act differently to how he/she would at home. Earn his respect, don't give him what he wants when he wants. The truth is, sometimes you have to be a bit of a "female dog" in order for guys to take you seriously. Get to know him properly so that you know what you want from him. You could either fall madly in love with him, or want to board the 1st plane home the next day. This time, I guess you will be seeing more of him than on your last trip, so you will get to see how he lives etc. & more of what he's really like

Sometimes the heart overtakes the mind, so try not to wear it on your sleeve, and go by your instinct.

Getting to know him will help you decide what you want from him: a long-term or short-term relationship. Have you seriously considered moving to Turkey? Moving there would mean having to sacrifice a lot, this is why you need to be 100% sure about him before giving up your life as you know it.

Just enjoy your trip, stay true to yourself, take it easy with the man, and ask yourself what attracted you to him in the 1st place. Also get to know his friends/family if necessary. If for some reason he doesn't introduce you to them I might be worried. But the fact that he wants to remain in Turkey is a good sign. It really depends on his character however.

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