You should be worried!

Submitted by Ampbreia (United States), Sep 11, 2008 at 17:34

It should worry you. It should worry you a lot. Check out the story of a friend of mine, also Australian, who married a Muslim from the Gaza Strip. Prior to their marriage, he showed himself to be completely liberal, and very westernized. They met in a night club and he was very romantic to her... but also insecure, jealous, and "protective." Beware those traits. Insecure, jealous, oppressive, and abusive is what comes to the fore after marriage... as too the return to harder core Islam for many because of the responsibilities outlined for men regarding marriage and children. Her husband didn't just become more religious, he became extremist to the point of keeping her as Saudi women are kept. Right now she fleeing for her life from him.

Do you really want to end up with abuse like your mother suffered? No woman should have to put up with that. Please be very, very careful. Put this guy to every test possible. Be very certain not to accept the hijab or get pressured into converting. Leaving Islam after the fact is something that gets previous converts murdered by Muslim family members or community. His reaction to your refusal will tell you a lot. If he can't accept you exactly as you are right now, that's a BIG red flag.

Please be safe, not sorry.

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